From the looks of this picture – these sweet smiling cherubs covered in flour from baking sugar cookies for Valentine’s Day/Birthday – you would never know. You wouldn’t even guess the dramatics we’ve had this week.
Mini is going through a hard stage. She cries and feels anxious when I leave her. Every.stinkin.time. She hasn’t ever had separation anxiety to this degree. She goes on and on about how much she’ll miss me. It has suddenly become a huge thing. She clings to my leg and begs me not to make her stay – even though she’s always loved going to these activities. It builds well in advance and let me tell you, the pleas are worthy of an Oscar. My confident, bouncy, independent, full-of-life girl has done a complete 180 on me.
Max is going through a tough phase, as well. It’s called long division.
I think we’ve made strides with Mini. To adopt a phrase from the Bachelor, I had a moment of clarity. During this morning’s dramatics before Mother’s Day Out, I sat down with her to make a to-do list. Something I know about my girl is that she is Type A all the way, so lists and reward stickers are a big deal. At first, she didn’t want to play along and cried hard after I wrote 1. get dressed, 2. go to Mother’s Day Out.
But after I added 1. and 2. I let her come up with the rest of the list. The prize for going to MDO with a happy heart and completing her list was that she could open one of her presents early.
Combined, those things had enough pull to move her feet towards the door.
Plus, Max seized the opportunity to get out of math for a few minutes and had a brother/sister talk on the stairs. It was so sweet. He said “Mini, it’s okay to miss Mom. I miss Mom too. But when I’m away from her I don’t really miss her that much anymore.”
The drop-off was still shaky, but when we picked her up from MDO she was all smiles. With a balloon in her hand and a box full of Valentines, she climbed into the van and thanked Max for comforting her, and that it was the best day ever.
Okay. Maybe this picture genuinely tells the story, after all.